My Blog
Spring 2022: Reflections on our world and the power of our most important relationships
I’ve never been more amazed by spring than this year. The buds that are getting ready to burst, the bright blooms coming out of the ground, the birds chirping and nesting all around us. How can still want to make their way into the world, with all that is...
Why “Warn” New Parents When We Could Invite Them In, Instead?
I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed
I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah. It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade. Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...
The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism--especially when I'm facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard for people...
On The Frontlines of a Relationship Pandemic
The Mess is Where the Magic Is: My Daughter Turned 10
My youngest child, my daughter, turned 10 years old in early December. Ten years seems like a great reflection point, and I’ve been trying to grasp how having this girl in my life for a decade has impacted me. I’ve come across one of her (many) enormous gifts...