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Why “Warn” New Parents When We Could Invite Them In, Instead?

I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...

I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed

I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed

I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah.  It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade.  Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...

The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic

The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic

As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism--especially when I'm facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard for people...

The Mess is Where the Magic Is: My Daughter Turned 10

The Mess is Where the Magic Is: My Daughter Turned 10

My youngest child, my daughter, turned 10 years old in early December.  Ten years seems like a great reflection point, and I’ve been trying to grasp how having this girl in my life for a decade has impacted me. I’ve come across one of her (many) enormous gifts...