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How Core Strength In Your Body Is Like Secure Attachment In Your Relationships
Photo by Lucian Gaddis, Canyonlands, UT. Becoming securely attached in our most important relationships is something really huge and foundational to our development. We all have the biological imperative (meaning a survival need) to attach. It is a largely...
When We Force Pregnancy On Women And Girls: Some Thoughts As A Mother And Therapist
I had a client once who was deciding if she wanted to have a baby or not (she was not pregnant at the time). She was concerned that I could not support her in this deliberation because she had seen (through social media and public speaking) how much I valued my role...
Spring 2022: Reflections on our world and the power of our most important relationships
I’ve never been more amazed by spring than this year. The buds that are getting ready to burst, the bright blooms coming out of the ground, the birds chirping and nesting all around us. How can still want to make their way into the world, with all that is...
Why “Warn” New Parents When We Could Invite Them In, Instead?
I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed
I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah. It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade. Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...
The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism--especially when I'm facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard for people...