Why Writing About Motherhood Is Hard for Me

by July TRS | Feb 9, 2023 | empowerment, Motherhood, psychology, writing

I anticipated this happening. Start writing a blog on motherhood, and pretty soon wonder: Why I am doing this? What is this for? How is this helping or changing anything, for me, or anyone? I don’t really have the time/energy/technical skills for this. What is the...

I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed

by July TRS | Feb 8, 2023 | Motherhood, psychology

I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah.  It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade.  Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...

The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic

by July TRS | Feb 8, 2023 | Marriage, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship, yoga

As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism–especially when I’m facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard...

Reflecting on 10 Years of Motherhood: On Mastery, Brain Upgrades, and Yoga Insights

by July TRS | Feb 8, 2023 | birth, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology

Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft.  All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work...

What If We Parented Our Kids As If Our Future Depended On It? (Because It Does)

by July TRS | Feb 8, 2023 | attachment, empathy, Feminism, health, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship

What if we parented our kids like our future depends on it? (Because, of course, it does).   What does that look like?  How do we treat our children in a way that considers their future roles, responsibilities, and opportunities?  That respects the...

On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

by July TRS | Feb 8, 2023 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values

Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.”  As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I...