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Why “Warn” New Parents When We Could Invite Them In, Instead?

by ellenboeder | Jun 29, 2021 | attachment, attachment parenting, empowerment, Motherhood, Parenting, relationship

I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed

I Somehow Got Five Days Alone, Here’s What I Noticed

by ellenboeder | May 20, 2021 | Motherhood, psychology

I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah.  It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade.  Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...
Reflecting on 10 Years of Motherhood: On Mastery, Brain Upgrades, and Yoga Insights

Reflecting on 10 Years of Motherhood: On Mastery, Brain Upgrades, and Yoga Insights

by ellenboeder | Mar 20, 2019 | birth, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology

Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft.  All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work...
On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

by ellenboeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values

Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.”  As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I...
More Choices, More Stress, And How To Deal With It

More Choices, More Stress, And How To Deal With It

by ellenboeder | Aug 24, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, psychology, values

Last summer, my parents and I got into a conversation about modern motherhood. They (and probably anyone from a previous generation) were shocked to learn—literally, their jaws were agape—that many mothers today experience a wide range of mental and physical health...
If Attachment Parenting Is Draining You, Try This

If Attachment Parenting Is Draining You, Try This

by ellenboeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values

In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and...
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