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Why “Warn” New Parents When We Could Invite Them In, Instead?

by ellenboeder | Jun 29, 2021 | attachment, attachment parenting, empowerment, Motherhood, Parenting, relationship

I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

by ellenboeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values

Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.”  As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I...
More Choices, More Stress, And How To Deal With It

More Choices, More Stress, And How To Deal With It

by ellenboeder | Aug 24, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, psychology, values

Last summer, my parents and I got into a conversation about modern motherhood. They (and probably anyone from a previous generation) were shocked to learn—literally, their jaws were agape—that many mothers today experience a wide range of mental and physical health...
On Independence, Fear, Patriarchy, and T-Shirt Slogans

Mothers’ Bodies Are Speaking Loud and Clear

by ellenboeder | Dec 5, 2017 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, values

Five years ago I was struggling to recover my energy since the birth of my second child, my daughter, who was almost 2 years old at the time. Despite getting as much sleep as I could with two young children, receiving a ton of support from my husband, feeling loved by...
Four Reasons Mothers are Overwhelmed and Underinspired, and What To Do About It

Four Reasons Mothers are Overwhelmed and Underinspired, and What To Do About It

by ellenboeder | Sep 21, 2017 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship

Family action shot above, though not a moment of overwhelm. Just a little birthday celebration for me at our favorite creek spot.  My son is not grimacing in pain, but making that face because he knows how to crack me up.  If you are a mother, I am 100%...
Hi. I’m a Mother. Even If I Don’t Look Like One To You.

Hi. I’m a Mother. Even If I Don’t Look Like One To You.

by ellenboeder | Apr 21, 2017 | empathy, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

“I never thought you were a mother.” The woman who spoke these words to me had only seen me in passing at a yoga class we both attend on a random basis. That is the whole sum of our interactions. And yet she had formed a little story of who I am. She’s not...
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