by ellenboeder | Mar 7, 2016 | economics, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, values
“…mothers can never achieve economic equality in the labor market as things now stand…Workplace marginalization has cumulative effects on a primary caregiver’s income, her status in marriage, her children’s security, and even the economy as whole.” —The Price of...
by ellenboeder | Mar 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
Recently, I got a huge download about feeling anxious: I realized that my anxiety is trying to help me. I know its weird for me to say that. If you ever feel anxious, you know anxiety does not feel helpful. Anxiety feels like something that needs to be stopped,...
by ellenboeder | Feb 23, 2016 | Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology
Ok. I can’t write one more word on this blog without talking about my marriage. This knowing that I have to write about us has been looming since I started writing about motherhood. Because, motherhood is not a solo endeavor for me. My experience as a mother is deeply...
by ellenboeder | Feb 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
It seems like everywhere I look these days, someone is selling me “The Secret to a Balanced Life,” or something along those lines. Anyone else out there annoyed by this? I feel like I am being sold a new and improved version of perfection, just repurposed and...
by ellenboeder | Jan 3, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology
I’m deconstructing another lie I tell myself when I feel overwhelmed with the amount of responsibilities and roles I have taken on in my life: I have no space. Now you see, a part of me really thinks this is TRUE. Seriously, I walk around with kids clinging to my...
by ellenboeder | Dec 7, 2015 | Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
*By the way, the hardest part of writing this post was finding a picture that would support the lie. Turns out I don’t have a single one that does. So here is a picture of the two people I adore that have turned my life upside down–in the best...
by ellenboeder | Nov 3, 2015 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
I had two simultaneous reactions to a picture I recently saw of the artist Amanda Palmer. The picture was of Amanda signing autographs while breastfeeding her new baby. On one hand, I felt a sense of victory. These days a woman can be a mother, breastfeeding openly,...
by ellenboeder | Oct 10, 2015 | empowerment, Motherhood, psychology, writing
I anticipated this happening. Start writing a blog on motherhood, and pretty soon wonder: Why I am doing this? What is this for? How is this helping or changing anything, for me, or anyone? I don’t really have the time/energy/technical skills for this. What is the...
by ellenboeder | Oct 7, 2015 | Uncategorized
I am no stranger to the way the media participates in objectifying and exploiting women’s bodies. Is anyone these days? I have been working as a psychotherapist for almost a decade with women who struggle with food and body image issues, and full blown...
by ellenboeder | Oct 7, 2015 | Uncategorized
My response to the blog post “ How to talk to your daughter about her body” I am a psychotherapist that works primarily with women, and a large part of my practice includes women with eating disorders and a range of food and body issues, so I write this response from...
