Relational Longevity Coaching
About Relational Longevity Coaching
Relational Longevity Coaching is for couples and individuals who want to work with me, but live outside of Colorado. When I coach people virtually, I incorporate all the principles of Relational Longevity, with a focus on the present and future goals and aspirations of my clients.
Because of my background in adult and parent-child attachment science, interpersonal neurobiology, experiential therapies, and study of the nervous system, couples will learn to interactively regulate more effectively through attuned and direct communication, value and honor each other’s differences (instead of trying to change their partner), share accountability for their relational experience, and create a shared vision for their relationship and future that aligns with Relational Longevity for couples.
In the coaching model, I do not work in depth with trauma or processing of historical material. Coaching is available to people who have adequate external support and internal resources to benefit from this higher accountability modality.
I offer a free 30 minute consultation to make sure we are a good fit for working together, and you can reach out to schedule that via my email contact.
I also created a course with my husband for couples called Relationship Upgrade that you can take from home at your own pace. This course is best for couples who know they want to be together and are looking to strengthen their relationship.
Additionally, every two years, my husband and I offer an online course to train relationship coaches to work with couples. You can check out our Couple’s Coaching Training here.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is coaching different than therapy?
Yes! Coaching focuses on the present and future direction of your life and your personal goals. Coaching will reference personal history without attempting to process it. Coaching has a more cognitive feel, where we pay attention to and work with beliefs, attitudes, narratives, behavior, and perceptions. Therapy can attend to all this, and can go beyond to include taking more time with personal history and the processing of memories and traumatic events that occurred in the past. Therapy also may involve more somatic and emotional processing of your sensations, feelings, and memories, and go at a slower pace to accommodate integration of all these aspects of experience.
Do you do coaching packages?
Currently, I do not. We schedule based on your needs and goals, and you pay for each session as we go.
How do I know if I am a good fit for coaching?
Since coaching is done virtually at a distance, people who do best with that model have access to support in other forms in their life, such as supportive relationships, and have adequate familiarity with and use of healthy coping tools. It also really helps to have a growth mindset, where you are interested in learning about yourself and curious about your internal thoughts, feelings, and ways of being. It helps to have an attitude of being a “student” in that you are here to learn about yourself (this mindset is helpful for therapy as well!).
How long does coaching last?
The idea with coaching (and therapy in my opinion) is to support you while you integrate more capacity within yourself that is in the service of your overall growth and development. Growing capacity can be around whatever you are working on: relationships, health, career, parenthood, or finding more purpose and meaning in life. I am development oriented as a practitioner, and whatever we work on will be connected to the growth and development of your capacities in a given area of life. I like to help people move forward, and sometimes that takes a while (6 months to a year or more), or that means just a few sessions. I am always assessing if progress is being made, and if not, we will actively discuss what is in the way and how to address that.