My Blog
Below you will find entries from my blog that ran until 2022. I now have a Substack where I post current and all future writings on attachment relationships, so feel free to follow me there. Thank you!
The Painful Truth About Partnership in The Pandemic
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism--especially when I'm facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard for people...
On The Frontlines of a Relationship Pandemic
The Mess is Where the Magic Is: My Daughter Turned 10
My youngest child, my daughter, turned 10 years old in early December. Ten years seems like a great reflection point, and I’ve been trying to grasp how having this girl in my life for a decade has impacted me. I’ve come across one of her (many) enormous gifts...
What Secure Attachment Really Is, and How to Create It (It’s Not What You Think)
Recently, a mother I know was confiding in me that through the help of professional support she was learning that her children are not securely attached. She was shocked to learn this (though it made sense to her) as she has been a stay at home mom, exclusively...
Reflecting on 10 Years of Motherhood: On Mastery, Brain Upgrades, and Yoga Insights
Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft. All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work...
What If We Parented Our Kids As If Our Future Depended On It? (Because It Does)
What if we parented our kids like our future depends on it? (Because, of course, it does). What does that look like? How do we treat our children in a way that considers their future roles, responsibilities, and opportunities? That respects the...