by ellenboeder | Mar 20, 2019 | birth, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology
Malcolm Gladwell, in researching great minds and talents, said that it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years, to master a craft. All those supposed instantly talented genius’ out there have one common denominator: they put in about a decade of hard, unrelenting work...
by ellenboeder | Dec 23, 2018 | attachment, empathy, Feminism, health, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship
What if we parented our kids like our future depends on it? (Because, of course, it does). What does that look like? How do we treat our children in a way that considers their future roles, responsibilities, and opportunities? That respects the...
by ellenboeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.” As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I...
by ellenboeder | Aug 24, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, psychology, values
Last summer, my parents and I got into a conversation about modern motherhood. They (and probably anyone from a previous generation) were shocked to learn—literally, their jaws were agape—that many mothers today experience a wide range of mental and physical health...
by ellenboeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and...
by ellenboeder | Dec 5, 2017 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, values
Five years ago I was struggling to recover my energy since the birth of my second child, my daughter, who was almost 2 years old at the time. Despite getting as much sleep as I could with two young children, receiving a ton of support from my husband, feeling loved by...
by ellenboeder | Sep 21, 2017 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship
Family action shot above, though not a moment of overwhelm. Just a little birthday celebration for me at our favorite creek spot. My son is not grimacing in pain, but making that face because he knows how to crack me up. If you are a mother, I am 100%...
by ellenboeder | Jun 29, 2017 | autoimmune, Marriage, Motherhood, relationship
*Yes, that is my son holding a muffin cup in his mouth that he made into a parachute with some string and a stick* My husband was ready to have a baby before I was. I think it was like three days after our wedding festivities ended when he told me he wanted a...
by ellenboeder | Apr 21, 2017 | empathy, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology
“I never thought you were a mother.” The woman who spoke these words to me had only seen me in passing at a yoga class we both attend on a random basis. That is the whole sum of our interactions. And yet she had formed a little story of who I am. She’s not...
by ellenboeder | Feb 10, 2017 | empowerment, Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, nurturing, relationship
I’ve been trying to find my words about being a mother in this climate of political aggression and hatred. I watch decision after horrifying decision be made in our government since the election. I realize, embarrassingly, I must have no idea how government works,...
