by ellenboeder | May 20, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
“You’re such a good mom.” This is one of the most loaded compliments a mother hears. It’s loaded with someone else’s biases. They’re basically saying, “You mother in the way I think you should, therefore, I approve of your mothering.” It’s a value...
by ellenboeder | Mar 28, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, psychology, values
“Why isn’t motherhood enough?” A smart, career oriented, devoted mother I know recently asked this worthwhile question to a group of mothers discussing the work/motherhood thing (and I’m not going to say work/motherhood “balance” because that phrase makes me cringe)....
by ellenboeder | Mar 14, 2016 | empathy, Marriage, Motherhood, nurturing, Parenting, psychology
Empathy as a mother is a crucial skill. Our children depend on our ability to sense and feel them deeply, and to use that information to keep creating balance, harmony, and well being in our fluctuating family systems. Being empathic is an asset as a human being,...
by ellenboeder | Mar 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
Recently, I got a huge download about feeling anxious: I realized that my anxiety is trying to help me. I know its weird for me to say that. If you ever feel anxious, you know anxiety does not feel helpful. Anxiety feels like something that needs to be stopped,...
by ellenboeder | Feb 23, 2016 | Feminism, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology
Ok. I can’t write one more word on this blog without talking about my marriage. This knowing that I have to write about us has been looming since I started writing about motherhood. Because, motherhood is not a solo endeavor for me. My experience as a mother is deeply...
by ellenboeder | Feb 1, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
It seems like everywhere I look these days, someone is selling me “The Secret to a Balanced Life,” or something along those lines. Anyone else out there annoyed by this? I feel like I am being sold a new and improved version of perfection, just repurposed and...
