The Missing Link In Your Self Care Routine

by ellenboeder | Oct 25, 2016 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship

Mothers, if you are married or partnered, I know a form of self care that will give you more energy back than you expend doing it.  Want to know what it is? Take care of your relationship. I know.  You’re already taking care of a TON of things.  I know...

For The Last 20 Years I’ve Been Trying To Keep Women From Hurting Themselves

by ellenboeder | Sep 26, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

Recently I was sitting across from a client in the process of enduring and assimilating a devastating, irreplaceable loss. In the midst of her profound grief and flowing tears, she spoke of an impulse to destroy herself, and a heartfelt realization came to me: For the...

Why I Won’t Be Going To See the Movie “Bad Moms”

by ellenboeder | Aug 12, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, values

Ok, I really don’t want to be a downer on the party here.  I get why some moms would want to go see the movie “Bad Moms.”  It will probably be funny, and cathartic.  There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be entertained for a night. What I can’t seem to...

Why Kids Don’t Care About Eating Healthy, and What You Can Do About It

by ellenboeder | Jul 24, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, nurturing, Parenting

This post was partly inspired by a recent decision to ban the sale of ice cream at our summer pools, because ice cream was deemed unhealthy for our kids by the City of Boulder. I was offended that the city felt the need to make decisions for me about what is healthy...

What I Could Talk to Mothers About For Hours

by ellenboeder | May 23, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

This weekend I was at a social gathering, and within minutes of arriving became involved in a conversation with a woman I’d just met about some of the changes in herself she noticed after becoming a mother. Ok, yes, I probably did steer our chat in that direction due...

I Don’t Want to Be a “Good” Mother

by ellenboeder | May 20, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values

“You’re such a good mom.” This is one of the most loaded compliments a mother hears. It’s loaded with someone else’s biases. They’re basically saying, “You mother in the way I think you should, therefore, I approve of your mothering.” It’s a value...