If Attachment Parenting Is Draining You, Try This

by ellenboeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values

In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and...

Four Reasons Mothers are Overwhelmed and Underinspired, and What To Do About It

by ellenboeder | Sep 21, 2017 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship

Family action shot above, though not a moment of overwhelm. Just a little birthday celebration for me at our favorite creek spot.  My son is not grimacing in pain, but making that face because he knows how to crack me up.  If you are a mother, I am 100%...

Hi. I’m a Mother. Even If I Don’t Look Like One To You.

by ellenboeder | Apr 21, 2017 | empathy, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

“I never thought you were a mother.” The woman who spoke these words to me had only seen me in passing at a yoga class we both attend on a random basis. That is the whole sum of our interactions. And yet she had formed a little story of who I am. She’s not...

The Missing Link In Your Self Care Routine

by ellenboeder | Oct 25, 2016 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Marriage, Motherhood, psychology, relationship

Mothers, if you are married or partnered, I know a form of self care that will give you more energy back than you expend doing it.  Want to know what it is? Take care of your relationship. I know.  You’re already taking care of a TON of things.  I know...

For The Last 20 Years I’ve Been Trying To Keep Women From Hurting Themselves

by ellenboeder | Sep 26, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

Recently I was sitting across from a client in the process of enduring and assimilating a devastating, irreplaceable loss. In the midst of her profound grief and flowing tears, she spoke of an impulse to destroy herself, and a heartfelt realization came to me: For the...

What I Could Talk to Mothers About For Hours

by ellenboeder | May 23, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, psychology

This weekend I was at a social gathering, and within minutes of arriving became involved in a conversation with a woman I’d just met about some of the changes in herself she noticed after becoming a mother. Ok, yes, I probably did steer our chat in that direction due...