by ellenboeder | Dec 7, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
Yesterday I walked by a man who was jogging wearing a t-shirt that read “Fearlessly Independent.” As he jogged past me, I thought about my current life, and how “fearless” and “independent” are definitely not words I would use to describe myself today. I...
by ellenboeder | Aug 24, 2018 | attachment, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, psychology, values
Last summer, my parents and I got into a conversation about modern motherhood. They (and probably anyone from a previous generation) were shocked to learn—literally, their jaws were agape—that many mothers today experience a wide range of mental and physical health...
by ellenboeder | Dec 28, 2017 | attachment, Marriage, Motherhood, Parenting, psychology, relationship, values
In the early years of raising our family, when we had two very young ones in our care, I remember realizing how often I was overriding my need for rest, among other needs. I remember thinking, “Wow, it took me years to figure out what I really need and want, and...
by ellenboeder | Dec 5, 2017 | autoimmune, empowerment, Feminism, health, Motherhood, values
Five years ago I was struggling to recover my energy since the birth of my second child, my daughter, who was almost 2 years old at the time. Despite getting as much sleep as I could with two young children, receiving a ton of support from my husband, feeling loved by...
by ellenboeder | Aug 12, 2016 | empowerment, Feminism, Motherhood, values
Ok, I really don’t want to be a downer on the party here. I get why some moms would want to go see the movie “Bad Moms.” It will probably be funny, and cathartic. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be entertained for a night. What I can’t seem to...
by ellenboeder | May 20, 2016 | Motherhood, psychology, values
“You’re such a good mom.” This is one of the most loaded compliments a mother hears. It’s loaded with someone else’s biases. They’re basically saying, “You mother in the way I think you should, therefore, I approve of your mothering.” It’s a value...
