by ellenboeder | Nov 18, 2023 | Uncategorized
I know there’s this thing about midlife women finally saying, “I don’t give a f*ck!” It speaks to how they no longer care what others think of them, or whether they measure up to society’s ideas of how they should be, act, live, work, mother, or look–and I’m...
by ellenboeder | Jan 13, 2023 | attachment, core strength, relationship, Uncategorized
Photo by Lucian Gaddis, Canyonlands, UT. Becoming securely attached in our most important relationships is something really huge and foundational to our development. We all have the biological imperative (meaning a survival need) to attach. It is a largely...
by ellenboeder | Jun 26, 2022 | Uncategorized
I had a client once who was deciding if she wanted to have a baby or not (she was not pregnant at the time). She was concerned that I could not support her in this deliberation because she had seen (through social media and public speaking) how much I valued my role...
by ellenboeder | May 5, 2022 | Uncategorized
I’ve never been more amazed by spring than this year. The buds that are getting ready to burst, the bright blooms coming out of the ground, the birds chirping and nesting all around us. How can still want to make their way into the world, with all that is...
by ellenboeder | Jun 29, 2021 | attachment, attachment parenting, empowerment, Motherhood, Parenting, relationship
I was “warned” about a lot of things as I embarked on pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, from well meaning people. But it never felt good to be warned about how tired I would be, how I would have no time for myself, how hard my infant, toddler, preteen or adolescent...
by ellenboeder | May 20, 2021 | Motherhood, psychology
I just finished a five day solo retreat in southern Utah. It was the first time I’ve left my family to be alone (for more than a day) in over a decade. Wait, I did do a one night retreat when I was 7 months pregnant with my second child, does that...
by ellenboeder | Feb 21, 2021 | Marriage, nurturing, Parenting, psychology, relationship, yoga
As a couples therapist and coach, sometimes I feel like I’m on the frontlines of a pandemic of individualism–especially when I’m facing how challenging it is for couples to think in a more complex, systemic way about their relationship. It is so hard...
by ellenboeder | Jan 10, 2021 | Uncategorized
My youngest child, my daughter, turned 10 years old in early December. Ten years seems like a great reflection point, and I’ve been trying to grasp how having this girl in my life for a decade has impacted me. I’ve come across one of her (many) enormous gifts...
by ellenboeder | Oct 21, 2019 | Uncategorized
Recently, a mother I know was confiding in me that through the help of professional support she was learning that her children are not securely attached. She was shocked to learn this (though it made sense to her) as she has been a stay at home mom, exclusively...
